It is my intention in life to be happy but it is my greater intention to be happier when I see my Creator! He who gives me life, takes it away and everything else in between.
Monday, June 28, 2010
Forgiving Others
One of my friend's status in the Facebook;
Ada org suruh tanya.. Perlukah kita add org yg pernah menghuru harakan hidup kita d dlm friend list kita bila kita mula bangkit dari perasaan down kita atas perbuatan dia terhadap kita! My personal... "thanks but no thank!".. What about U?
My simple comment;
If you want to learn how to be happy...learn to be forgiving first. People changed, give chance as much as u expect people to give u chance....just a piece of my mind. Good luck! :) Peace...
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Do you realise that forgiving others is actually for our own sake? Thru the course of my life, I really thought that I'm a forgiveful person but actually I'm not. Until recently, I just discovered the fact of what forgiving really means. (OMG...I'm already 42 years and just discovered this fact, what am I thinking....obviously learning this skill is not overnight!) Forgiving doesn't mean you forget the whole event, that is called avoiding the issue. The real forgiveness means you still remember the event once in a while but it doesn't hurt you anymore when you think about it! (Hmmm...I used to cry a lot when remembering it b'cos, ouch..it hurts!) I think it is called the art of letting go...
I really feel good about myself now since I do not have any grudges over anybody. It doesn't matter anymore if that person/people changed or otherwise. Or they realized what they have done to us or not. Let him/her deal with it themselves. Don't lose your sleep over them. It doesn't mean that you have to be nice to them. Just be nice to everybody sincerely, not pretending. Get over it and move on honey!
Just my 1 cent worth of experience....
Firman Allah yang bermaksud: “Dan jika kamu memberi maaf, maka itu lebih dekat kepada takwa.” (Surah al-Baqarah, ayat 237)
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Beating Yourself Up
Since akak tengah tunggu Germany Vs Ghana malam ni, meh kita share citer ni. Life is better when shared....muahaha...yerlah tu... :D
"Linda, if beating yourself up were an Olympic sport, you'd win a gold medal!"
Annabel, my close friend, stunned me with that blunt observation after I told her how I had mishandled a situation with a student in a third-grade class where I was substituting. "I should never have let him go to the boy's room without a pass! It was my fault he got into trouble with the hall monitor! I'm so stupid!"
My friend burst out laughing, and then made her "Olympic" comment. After a brief period of reflection I had to admit that she was right. I did put myself down an awful lot. Why, just during the previous day I had called myself "a slob" for having some papers spread out on my desk, "ugly" when I left the house without makeup and "an idiot" when I left the house for an emergency substitute job without my emergency lesson plan.
In a more reflective tone, Annabel said, "I once took a workshop where the woman in charge had us list all the mean things we say about ourselves."
"How many did you have on your list?" I asked.
"Fifteen," she confessed. "But then the teacher said, 'Now turn to the person next to you and say all the items on your list as if you were speaking to that person!' "
My jaw dropped. "What did you do?"
"Nothing. Nobody did. We all just sat there, until I said, 'I could never say these things to anyone else!'
"And our teacher replied, 'Well, if you can't say them to anyone else, then don't ever say them to yourself!' "
"Linda, if beating yourself up were an Olympic sport, you'd win a gold medal!"
Annabel, my close friend, stunned me with that blunt observation after I told her how I had mishandled a situation with a student in a third-grade class where I was substituting. "I should never have let him go to the boy's room without a pass! It was my fault he got into trouble with the hall monitor! I'm so stupid!"
My friend burst out laughing, and then made her "Olympic" comment. After a brief period of reflection I had to admit that she was right. I did put myself down an awful lot. Why, just during the previous day I had called myself "a slob" for having some papers spread out on my desk, "ugly" when I left the house without makeup and "an idiot" when I left the house for an emergency substitute job without my emergency lesson plan.
In a more reflective tone, Annabel said, "I once took a workshop where the woman in charge had us list all the mean things we say about ourselves."
"How many did you have on your list?" I asked.
"Fifteen," she confessed. "But then the teacher said, 'Now turn to the person next to you and say all the items on your list as if you were speaking to that person!' "
My jaw dropped. "What did you do?"
"Nothing. Nobody did. We all just sat there, until I said, 'I could never say these things to anyone else!'
"And our teacher replied, 'Well, if you can't say them to anyone else, then don't ever say them to yourself!' "
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Sincerity
Let me share something here. There is one biggest lesson that I learned in my life is from my husband. It was long time ago when we were young. I owed him so much for this lesson. It is called sincerity.
He said, "Ikhlas itu bermakna bila kita melakukan@memberikan sesuatu dan kita tidak mengharapkan apa2 balasan dan tidak mengungkit2 pemberian kita. Walau apapun yang orang lain lakukan atau katakan kepada kita selepas itu, sekali pun mereka menyakiti hati kita. Kerana apa yang kita lakukan atau berikan semata2 kerana Allah bukan kerana orang lain dan jauh sekali untuk mendapat pujian". Full stop.
I found that it is such a liberation when you do something good and you attached yourself to nothing. Even if people don't appreciate you. Why not try it yourself!
Firman Allah didalam Surah Al-Baqarah, ayat 262 maksudnya: "Orang-orang yang membelanjakan hartanya pada jalan (ugama) Allah, kemudian mereka tidak mengiringi apa yang mereka belanjakan itu dengan perkataan membangkit-bangkit (pemberiannya), dan tidak pula menyinggung atau menyakiti (pihak yang diberi), mereka beroleh pahala di sisi Tuhan mereka, dan tidak ada kebimbangan (dari berlakunya kejadian yang tidak baik) terhadap mereka, dan mereka pula tidak akan berdukacita."
Monday, June 21, 2010
Masak2 cuti sekolah...
Huhuhu....cuti skolah dah habis. Thank you Kak Nyah sebab ajar emak camner nak wat pic kat atas tu! So...layan gambar2 masakan akak masa cuti sekolah. Ada orang kata akak pandai memasak, excuse me.... tapi rasa nya bukan pandai tapi suka memasak! Kekadang masuk tong sampah jugak...muahaha :P.
Antara menu cuti skolah ni; ayam golek...testing new recipe, chocolate cake...with fresh strawberries on top, marble cheese cupcakes, karipap with chicken pie filling...guna chicken pie filling sbb malas nak buat puff pastri, apple date cheddar muffins...my first attempt, shepard pie dan butter prawn. Yang tak ada dalam gambar, ketam masak lemak dan pancakes(the kids love this)... sbb akak tak pandai nak meng"adjust" gambar2 tu lagi daa...
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Let me be......
ALLAH let me be GRATEFUL for...
My life..for making me alive, my health...for giving me more health than sickness, my parents..for caring and nurturing me, my husband...for loving and caring me so much, my children...for giving me the opportunity to be a mom, my friends and families...for making my life complete, my house...that I can call it a home, my cars...for making me mobile, my garden...so that I can see the beauty of this world, my kitchen...where I can appreciate my food, my job...where I can help this world goes around and last but not least, for all the things I have....so that I care less for what I don't.
ALLAH let me be a BETTER person everyday....
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Petua untuk di beri kesabaran
“Wahai Tuhan kami! Limpahkanlah sabar kepada kami, dan teguhkanlah tapak pendirian kami serta menangkanlah kami terhadap kaum yang kafir” (Al-Baqarah: 250)
1) Amalkan asma ul husna; As-Sabur.
2) Rajin membaca al-Quran bagi mendekatkan hidayah.
3) Tetapkan solat 5 waktu.
4) Jgn mencari salah org lain, cari kesilapan diri sendiri kerana kita sendiri tidak sempurna.
Petua dari : Khazanah dari Syurga.
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Budget
"Emak, kakak nak beli 'cardigan' boleh?" tanya Kak Yong. "Nak buat apa?" tanya ku. "Ala...kakak berkenan lah emak, dah lama kakak cari." jawab nya.
Hmmm...nak bagi beli ker tidak? Aku dalam dilema. Semenjak dia duduk di KL tu, dah pandai bershopping nampak nya. Aku tak beri jawapan. Aku tanya hubby aku camner nak handle. Seperti biasa "Ntah, I empower you to decide... " jawab nya. Ek eleh...x habis2 ngan delegation nya tu, sabor jer lah!
So, esok nya aku bagi satu keputusan. I'm not sure whether it is right or wrong decision. "Kakak, the money is yours. It is totally up to you what you gonna do with it. My free advice is, whenever you spend please differentiate between needs and wants. Jangan membazir sudah lah," kata ku. "Sekarang ni masa untuk kakak belajar bagaimana nak budget duit kakak. Every month I'll give you fixed amount, you work on it...jgn sampai tak makan sudah! Spend wisely ," tambah ku. "OK!" jawab nya.
I guess this is the time I should let her go. Cause I believe that happy and successful children learn to fight their own battle, learn to budget and learn to deal with disappointment. Let them discover the real world themselves.
Huhuhu...I have learned to discover this world myself!
Hmmm...nak bagi beli ker tidak? Aku dalam dilema. Semenjak dia duduk di KL tu, dah pandai bershopping nampak nya. Aku tak beri jawapan. Aku tanya hubby aku camner nak handle. Seperti biasa "Ntah, I empower you to decide... " jawab nya. Ek eleh...x habis2 ngan delegation nya tu, sabor jer lah!
So, esok nya aku bagi satu keputusan. I'm not sure whether it is right or wrong decision. "Kakak, the money is yours. It is totally up to you what you gonna do with it. My free advice is, whenever you spend please differentiate between needs and wants. Jangan membazir sudah lah," kata ku. "Sekarang ni masa untuk kakak belajar bagaimana nak budget duit kakak. Every month I'll give you fixed amount, you work on it...jgn sampai tak makan sudah! Spend wisely ," tambah ku. "OK!" jawab nya.
I guess this is the time I should let her go. Cause I believe that happy and successful children learn to fight their own battle, learn to budget and learn to deal with disappointment. Let them discover the real world themselves.
Huhuhu...I have learned to discover this world myself!
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Only one way...not 1 Malaysia
Thru the course of my life, I learned only one way to live; "Lillahita'ala". The rest will take care of itself.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
What is Sanity?
"In the dictionary, sanity is defined as rational and logical thinking of human mind. If this definition is valid, it means all women in this world are insane!"
Hahaha....very interesting quote I guess. Just gained a new knowledge while "lepak"ing with the kids in the library. Not sure if it is true or not.... Kata nya, orang pompuan ni suka buat keputusan berdasarkan "logical thinking" dan "intuitive feelings" berbanding dgn orang lelaki yang lebih suka "logical n rational". Macam lah orang lelaki tak pernah buat keputusan guna perasaan!
To guys out there...no hard feeling! Hehehe....;)
Hahaha....very interesting quote I guess. Just gained a new knowledge while "lepak"ing with the kids in the library. Not sure if it is true or not.... Kata nya, orang pompuan ni suka buat keputusan berdasarkan "logical thinking" dan "intuitive feelings" berbanding dgn orang lelaki yang lebih suka "logical n rational". Macam lah orang lelaki tak pernah buat keputusan guna perasaan!
To guys out there...no hard feeling! Hehehe....;)
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Demam!!!!!!!
Alhamdulillah akak sihat2 dan ceria2 selalu....cuma Demam World Cup jer....aper2 pun Solat Tahajud dulu wei!Hehehe...(Mengingat diri sendiri jer)
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Happy Father's Day
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Dropped like a bomb
Last night my best friend called. She said, "Nik, I do not want you to hear it from someone else. Yesterday, I already separated with XXX, we are divorced. I'm now 'janda anak 7'". It just dropped like a bomb to me. I'm speechless.
Friday, June 4, 2010
Apa itu kebaikan dunia?
"Wahai Tuhan Kami...Kurniakanlah kepada kami kebaikan didunia dan di akhirat, dan jauhkanlah kami dari azab api neraka."....adalah antara doa yang sering kita ulang-ulangkan saban hari selepas solat fardhu....Tapi apakah sebenarnya Kebaikan didunia yang dimaksudkan itu?
1. Mendapat taufik dan hidayah Allah
Orang yang mendapat taufik dan hidayah ertinya dia seorang yang dibantu oleh Allah untuk mengamalkan islam. Islam beerti selamat. Orang islam kalau kekal mendapat taufik dan hidayah dari Allah, akan selamat didunia dan akhirat. Sabda nabi s.a.w.:”Sungguh beruntung orang yang beragama Islam…”(Riwayat Muslim).
2. Diberi kefahaman agama.
Untuk amalkan Islam perlukan kefahaman tentang Islam juga dikira telah mendapat kebaikan didunia. Orang islam yang tidak diberi kefahaman tentang Islam oleh Allah akan mengamalkan apa yang disangkanya dari ajaran Islam tetapi sebenarnya menyeleweng dari Islam. Hidup tak akan benar-benar selamat dan tak mampu menyelamatkan orang lain. Sabda nabi: ”Sesiapa yang Allah mengkehendaki kebaikan kepadanya, Dia akan menjadikannya faham dalam agama.” (Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim).
3. Dapat berbuat amalan soleh.
Dengan kefahaman agama yang Allah beri, seseorang itu dapat berbuat 'amal soleh. Ini juga merupakan kebaikan di dunia kerana hidup akan terisi perkara baik dan tidak terumbang- ambing. Firman Allah:”Orang-orang yang berbuat baik didunia ini memperolehi ‘hasanah’ (kebaikan). Dan bumi Allah itu adalah luas…”(Az-Zumar:10).
4. Mendapat Ilmu yang bermanfaat.
Ilmu yang bermanfaat adalah panduan untuk mengisi hidup dengan perkara-perkara yang baik dan selamat. Sebab itu Nabi s.a.w: ”Ya Allah ya Tuhanku, berilah manfaat kepadaku dari apa-apa yang engkau ajarkan kepadaku dan ajarkanlah daku apa-apa yang bermanfaat buat diriku.” (Riwayat at-Tabrani)
5. Mendapat pasangan hidup yang soleh/solehah, zuriat penyejuk hati, sahabat yang solihin.
Kebahagiaan hidup adalah perkara yang semua orang impikan. Sabda Nabi: ”Empat dari tanda-tanda kebahagiaan seseorang: Isterinya solehah, anak-anaknya abrar (soleh), teman-temannya orang soleh dan sumber rezekinya dinegeri sendiri.” (Riwayat ad-Dailami dari Ali .a).
Isteri atau suami yang baik membantu seseorang mendekatkan diri kepada Allah. Anak-anak yang baik akan terus memberi manfaat setelah kematian kita. Pahala amalan baiknya hasil didikan kita dan doa mereka akan terus mengalir kepada kita. Sahabat yang baik akan membawa kita kepada jalan hidup yang selamat. Mereka tempat kita berkongsi masalah dan kegagalan, bukan hanya berkongsi senang dan kejayaan.
6. Kesihatan dan kesejahteraan.
Dengan mempunyai kesihatan yang baik, banyak perkara yang dapat dilakukan dalam hidup ini. Kesihatan juga sering dikaitkan denga kesejahteraan hidup. Nabi s.a.w memohon:”Ya Allah, 'afiatkanlah tubuhku dan 'afiatkanlah pendengaranku.” (Riwayat Ibnu Syaibah)
7. Panjang Umur dalam kereta'atan.
Hampir setiap orang mahu hidup lama kecuali orang yang putus asa dengan hidup (na'uzubillah). Sabda nabi s.a.w: ”Sesungguhnya sehabis-habis kebahagiaan itu ialah panjang umur dalam mentaati Allah.”. (Riwayat Khotib daripada Abdullah dari bapanya).
8. Mendapat rezeki yang halal.
Nabi s.a.w menekankan agar umatnya berusaha mendapatkan rezeki halal kerana ia memberkatkan hidup. Dalam satu hadis, baginda mengatakan bahawa mencari rezeki yang halal itu satu jihad. Malah sabdanya: ”'Amalan yang paling utama itu ialah mencari rezeki dari sumber yang halal.” (Riwayat al-Hakim).
9. Beroleh keimanan dan ketaqwaan.
Dengan iman dan taqwa, seseorang itu mulia disisi Allah dan manusia. Sabda nabi: ”Semulia-mulia manusia adalah orang yang paling bertaqwa diantara kamu.” (Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)
10. Banyak mengingati Allah s.w.t.
Nikmat paling besar yang manusia cari-cari dalam hidup ialah nikmat ketenangan. Firman Allah: ”Sesungguhnya dengan mengingati Allah itu hati akan menjadi tenang.” (Ar-ra’ad:28).
Sabda Nabi s.a.w:”Aku berpesan kepada kamu semua supaya mengingati Allah, kerana hal itu dapat menghiburkan hati kamu dari segala kesulitan duniawi.” (Riwayat ad-Dailami).
11. Berjaya menyucikan jiwa dari mazmumah.
Hidup tak akan tenang jika hati penuh hasad dengki, tamak, takut, benci dan pelbagai sifat mazmumah lain. Tidak hairanlah dikatakan orang yang bersih hatinya daripada sifat mazmumah ini adalah orang yang mendapat kebaikan didunia. Bila menghadapi musibah, dia sabar dan bersangka baik dengan Allah. Bila dapat nikmat, dia bersyukur. Hatinya tak pernah keluh-kesah. Firman Allah:”Sesungguhnya berjaya dan beruntunglah orang yang menyucikan jiwanya.” (Al-A’lah:14)
12. Mati dalam kebaikan (Husnul Khotimah).
Ini merupakan penutup segala kebaikan didunia. Firman Allah s.w.t: ”…demikian Allah memberi balasan kepada orang-orang yang bertaqwa, iaitu orang-orang yang diwafatkan dalam keadaan baik oleh para malaikat dengan mengatakan (kepada mereka) Salamun ‘Alaik.” (Riwayat Abu Na’im).
Kebaikan didunia itu sebenarnya milik hamba-hambaNya yang taat, hamba yang lebih utamakan akhirat dari dunia. Dalam surah an-Nahl:22, dinyatakan bahawa Allah mengurniakan kepada Nabi Ibrahim a.s hasanah di atas kehidupan dunia. Ayat ini menjadi dalil bahawa ada kebaikan duniawi yang Allah beri kepada hamba-hambaNya yang dikehendaki.
(sumber: Anis - September 2003)
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